I visited your grave at El Alamein in 2008. The first of your family to ever visit your grave after your death is 1942 at the beginning of the El Alamein fighting. At the foot of your headstone, I buried a scarab from a market, a stone found at the Pyramids and one of my handmade bronze cast kina earrings from NZ. How devastated your family was at your death. Your wife, the lives of your two young children were forever deeply scarred - their whole lives - and so continued the effect on raising of all six grandchildren. You were so keen to go - you were too old to go but your letters to Army superiors show the importance to you of going to fight. How we wish you hadn't - how lives might have been different. We would love to have known you.